As a parent of a special needs child, I find myself quite regularly overwhelmed. Knocked down by all the craziness and the drama. Exhausted by the neverending-ness of it all. It’s like running a race to a finish line that doesn’t exist yet.
I know I’m not alone. Some
of you special parents out there struggle with the same kind of battles like
myself (ADHD, SPD), or with ASD, other disabilities, or chronic, debilitating medical
issues. We may have different kind of wars, but the fight’s very similar.
Sometimes
the things that burden you the most are the mounting, daily “small” things that
you can’t even begin to explain to people who’s never been there. But I get
that. I really do. Same as you, I’m running that race too.
Sometimes knowing or reading/watching
about those people “who made it” and radiantly won the war is encouraging,
inspiring even. Some other times it makes you down right envious, especially if
it seems like you’re nowhere near winning your own war.
After all these
therapy sessions, evaluation, having so called experts judging telling me
what I do wrong with my parenting, the diet, the exercises, the being shield
for my son (in such a way that I often end up being victimized), the being judged
that my parenting caused my son’s problems, etc., naturally, I expect some “result”.
Some kind of a reward in the form of my
son’s improvement. It’d fuel us to keep going, or be a nice clue that tells us we’re going
in the right direction. And when result
is nowhere to be found, I got discouraged. Sometimes I got as low as blaming myself for not fighting hard enough or
not being a good enough parent or not loving enough or not etc etc enough.
But today God
whispered to me that such improvement is just the bonus, not the main prize.
My calling is to
nurture this child God has “loaned” me.
To keep sowing the seeds faithfully and
move forward, albeit in tears.
To keep running the race to the finish line.
There,
the main prize is already waiting for me: the crown that the Lord promised for
His faithful servants, and Jesus’ warm greeting, “Welcome home, My child, well
done...”
I may or may not get the
“bonus” this side of heaven. God never promised that all my labor will pay off in
my walk on this earth. Even Moses, after 40 years of leading a desert trek, did NOT get to the promised land, he was only allowed
to see it from afar.
So if I get to see my bonus, that would be a wonderful privilege.
But if I don’t, I want to choose not to make a big deal out of it.
It’s the
main prize that I aim for. That’s why I’ll keep running the race.
See you all at the
finish line.
“But you, keep your
head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist,
discharge all the duties of your ministry. ... I have fought the good fight, I
have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the
crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me
on that day – and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for His
appearing.”
2 Timothy 4:5, 7-8
SALUTE, Piot...I really do salute you for having to fight the fight that way (with lack support from the people around you, from being judged to inner wars inside you, etc.) and for being brave enough to be honest with your struggles (which is actually a blessing for us 'coz that way I can feel how God has strengthened you). Can't imagine how it feels like being in your place, but I really believe that you've done your very best up until now and that matters. I'm praying with the girls for guidance always as well as peace of mind. HUGE HUGS!!!
ReplyDeleteOne comfort verse for me is this: "My grace is sufficient for you BECAUSE My strength is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me."
Mel, thanks buat ayatnya, emang itu juga salah satu ayat andalan :)
ReplyDeleteThank you SOOO much for being a constant encouragement, you and the girls. Couldn't have made it without you! *group hugs*
The feeling's mutual, Piot...*group hugs*
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