Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or attention deficit disorder (ADD) is a developmental disorder. It is primarily characterized by "the co-existence of attentional problems and hyperactivity, with each behavior occurring infrequently alone" and symptoms starting before seven years of age.
Visit these pages for more info, because this post can't possibly satisfy your curiosity or answer all your questions:
Or click here if you want to see some of the help videos on ADD/ADHD.
If you wonder whether or not your child has ADD/ADHD, visit this nice blog of moms with ADHD children, or this post for brief information. But I urge you to find a psychologist and/or a pediatrician who has expertise about ADD, ADHD and Autistic Spectrum, because not all psychologist or doctors or paediatrician are licensed to make the diagnosis or even familiar enough with the matter.
After you get all the basic infos, here's some misjudgements that I want to straighten (these remarks are summarized from the help videos and other resources above):
1. ADD/ADHD is NOT the result of bad parenting, it is caused by a dysfunction in the brain.
2. Children cannot be disciplined into not having ADHD, because it is a biological condition.
3. Children with ADD/ADHD cannot choose when to have their attention focused well, and cannot make their hyperactivity disappear by simply willing it to go away. It is not something that they can control, no matter how hard they try to.
This doesn't mean that you can't discipline them at all, but there are times when their behaviour is being caused by their brain condition.
4. Children with ADD/ADHD are often misjudged of having no empathy, morals, obedience, and the parents are often held condemned for being so themselves.
5. ADD/ADHD is not caused by poor diet or too much media exposure (TV, video games, computers, etc), but poor diet or too much media exposure can overstimulate children with ADD/ADHD and worsen the condition.
6. Children with ADD/ADHD are frequently accused of not trying, of being lazy and not being a good kid. Teachers get angry at them, classmates don’t like them or even treat them disrespectfully. (I quote this from Dr. James Dobson’s book, The New Strong Willed Child, page 241.)
Why am I writing about this?
Because my funny, smart, strong-willed and loveable nearly-4-year-old son has recently been suspected of having AD(H)D and Developmental Coordination Disorder.
This issue is still a huge, tangled, ball of messy lines of thoughts, burdens, and anxiety for us. We are still struggling to cope and deal with it, and still trying to find the most suitable solution and formula to handle this matter for the sake of our beloved son, and us, too.
The road ahead is going to be a long and winding journey, and we surely will have our ups and downs, but thankfully, we know the One who has been and is still carrying us, continuously: our Mighty Lord Jesus.
His grace WILL be sufficient, as it has always been.
May God's name be glorified in all this.